Movie Launch : Friends with Benefits (21 Sep 2011)

Event : Friendship with Benefits
Offering : Buffer Dinner, Wine and Movie!
Date : 21 Sep 2011
Time : 6.30pm – 9pm (Wed)
Movie : Friends with Benefits
Price : $30/pax, $55/pair if signed up with a friend.
Venue : Cathay Cineleisure Level 6 – Preview Lounge

Program (subject to slight change) :

6.30 – 7.00 – Welcome and Cocktail
7.00 – 7.20 – Ice Breakers (Vanessa)
7.20 – 8.00 – Dinner & Social Networking
8.00 – 8.30 – Talk on Love Yourself, Embrace Your Body Shape (Vanessa)
8.30 – 9.00 – More Social Networking
9.00 – 9.15 – “Destiny Draw”
9.15 – Movie starts

** Please bring lots of namecards as we are expecting more than 100 pax

RSVP : with “Name/Mobile/Gender

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The life story of Judgement and Experience

Experience is not what happens to a man.

It is what a man does with what happened to him.

Good judgment comes from experience,

and often experience comes from bad judgment.

If you will call your troubles experiences,

and remember that every experience

develops some latent force within you,

you will grow vigorous and happy,

however adverse your circumstances may seem to be.

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Words of Wisdom with Pictures of Inspiration

The art of being wise is knowing what to overlook

Whenever you’re in conflict with someone,

there is one factor that can make the difference between

damaging the relationship and deepening it.

That factor is attitude. Be forgiving too.

 Keep your sense of humor.

It helps us to overlook the unbecoming,

understand the unconventional, tolerate the unpleasant,

overcome the unexpected, and outlast the unbearable.

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Andrew Chow : Professional Member in Asia Professional Speakers – Singapore (APSS)

I find it’s a great honor to be a professional member in Asia Professional Speakers – Singapore (APSS), which is an association whose membership is made up of subject experts who are already speaking and/or training professionally, and others who aspire to become professional speakers/trainers.  At the same time, I am invited by the current President Shirley Taylor, which is also the first lady President of the Association to sit in the Ex-Co to serve as a Public Relations representative.

The objectives of the Association are to :

  1. To grow, facilitate, encourage, develop and contribute to the community of speaking professionals in Singapore.
  2. To improve the standard of professional speaking by developing speaking techniques and professionalism, and sharing experiences and expertise among members.
  3. To provide opportunities for members to share their experiences and expertise with the community through seminars and public talks.
  4. To help develop the professional speaking industry and the community of speakers in Asia.
As a professional body, it’s focus will be :
  1. Expertise
    This refers to knowledge, skills and experience, with a particular emphasis on the application of this knowledge, these skills or experience.
  2. Eloquence
    This refers to the art of speaking and the use of powerful and persuasive presentations. It embodies the knowledge and skills of presenting and performing, as well as techniques for creating the proper setting for an effective presentation.
  3. Enterprise
    This refers to the skills needed to undertake a successful speaking business. It involves business management, sales and marketing, and the skills and techniques needed to generate income through speaking engagements and other revenue streams.
  4. Ethics
    This refers to the principles or standards governing the conduct of the members of the speaking profession. It is the foundation and the summation of the three other competencies. It encompasses your reputation, character, integrity, honesty and the building of trust with all of your stakeholders.
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What makes a good leader?

In a recent quiz, a established bank ask their staff and managers to contribute the best definition of a leader, below are the 10 best answers.

If you are a leader in your company, society, group or organisation, this is a self-reflection list for all of us to ponder.

1. A good leader is one who practises what he/she preaches, leads by example and is gentle with others but strict with himself.

2. A good leader is one who knows how to listen to his people, has charisma to make his people follow him, and who makes his visions happen for the common good of the organisation and his people.

3. Someone who shows the way, knows the way, and goes the way.

4. An authoritative manager might be effective, but his empathy and vision transforms an individual into a true leader. Understanding your people, our greatest resource, and knowing how to take them forward with a clear directive, is what leadership really means.

5. A good leader leads by example, yet listens to his followers.

6. A good leader can think, foresee future opportunities and give equal importance to the present. He or she should successfully encourage his or her colleagues and subordinates to think differently, recognise the need for change and work towards achieving a common goal.

7. A good leader is one who leads from the front consistently, taking ownership in all situations and does not buckle under pressure and pass the buck to his subordinates.

8. A good leader need not be flawless but must be able to acknowledge his flaws and act on them.

9. If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are leader.

10.. A leader is one whom others will follow to a place where they would not go on their own.

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Friends with Benefits (There are rules to follow)



On 17 August, 10am, I was invited to a Industry Sneak Preview of “Friends with Benefits”, to prepare ourselves for the Movie Launch on 27 Sep with Vanessa Tan. Sony Pictures has creatively come up with “rules of engagement” for Friends with Benefits (FWB)

* These are just-for-laughs and do not represent my personal view or opinion.


Friends with benefits relationships are a fun, simple way to fill that biological urge to get down and get nasty. Here are six simple rules essential to maintaining a healthy FWB relationship:

1)      IT’S JUST SEX. An FWB relationship begins with friendship and ends with both of you naked and sexually fulfilled.

2)      NO EMOTIONS. Keep it simple. Your FWB isn’t your shoulder to cry on. In fact the only way they can support you is if you’re trying that new sexual position you read about.

3)      NO NEED FOR INSECURITY. You don’t have to feel anxious around your FWB. They’re already your friend and they’re already into you enough to want to bonk your brains out.

4)      COMMUNICATE. Because you’re not worrying so much about their feelings, feel free to tell them if there’s something they could do better in the bedroom. That’s really the only way they can scratch that insatiable itch of yours.

5)      COMPARTEMENTALIZE. Remember: your FWB plays a very specific role in your life, one that doesn’t need to be introduced to your other friends or – eeek! – your parents.

6)      FEAR THE CUDDLE. You can bask in a post-coital glow but neither of you should be down to cuddle.

Follow these rules and we guarantee* that you’re bound to have a fun, sexually fulfilling and drama free FWB relationship. Be careful though, FWB relationships always have the potential to become full blown romantic liaisons. Keep up your guard, have good sex and remember not to cuddle!

*Not real guarantee.

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Best 100 out of 3000 to celebrate Andrew’s Happy 2nd Twitter Anniversary

To mark my 2nd anniversary on Twitter, I went through more than 3000 tweets to select top 100 of my favourite ones to share…

  • If structures can find new life and purpose, why not people?
  • The art of personal influence always make a difference in many areas. The opposite is a spirit of indifference which has no influence at all.
  • Training is what a trainer has to deliver. Learning is what happened in class, development is what happens after the class is over.
  • Obstacles of your journey come in several forms: Distraction, Diversion, and Discouragement. Avoid these Ds.
  • Persevere on what you set out to do, stick with it, once you get traction, you will get momentum, and finally get into a rhythm.
  • Creativity is quickly becoming the next currency in the business and design world
  • Visualization is more than just a mental trick. If you can’t see clearly to the end of the line, chances are your goal lacks clarity
  • Understand the problem well enough, and the solution will present itself
  • If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail.
  • Become a problem solver at work and you will become an indispensable member of your team and company
  • Success on social media isn’t about account creation on platforms but content creation on those platforms to add value to community.
  • Being positive in life means when life gives you a lemon, make lemonade!
  • When you do things out of passion, it makes it so much easier. When you do things out of obligation, it makes it so much harder.
  • Your personality determines your brand of creativity in life, love and some say lunch
  • He who does not day dream will never dream big enough in his life
  • A great man needs courage, to choose service before security
  • The greatness of a Christian is his willingness to put cause of Christ before his comfort
  • The greatness of a team player is his Cooperation over Competition
  • If you do not live for anything, you will fall for everything
  • Proven character is character tested in the fire. Conviction is living for something to die for.
  • Consistency in life is putting character before compromise
  • People last, but Profits won’t
  • Compassion for people is putting relationship between results
  • Greatness isn’t defined by the value of your wealth but the wealth of your value
  • The diet plan for getting wisdom is to be hungry for knowledge and thirsty for insight
  • Social media levels the playing field between school leavers and mature PMETs. It is no respector of age or experience. Just be savvy
  • Endure short term frustration to enjoy long term fruits.
  • Be thankful for any opportunity which presents itself in life. The journey is more exciting than the destination itself
  • The best time to set resolution isn’t at beginning of the year, it should be at the beginning of your birthday to reflect passing of time
  • Many companies embracing social media didn’t realise the crux of the matter is to be more social in conducting their business on the media.
  • Change is the prelude to Growth
  • The person or element with the most flexibility in a system will have the most influence
  • Life is so much more exciting when you have creativity flowing out constantly to share ideas to those who need a nudge of inspiration.
  • The presuppositions of NLP which are beliefs that guided its development can also be applied to Creativity! #NLP #Creativity
  • Creativity is often the result of positive energy at work out of a Chaos
  • We can’t be creative if we do not even dare to be different from the rest in the first place
  • Small action reveals true intention! Strong words only reveal personality
  • The best way to manage change is to expect it and position yourselves ready when it comes
  • Growth: The seeds of great discoveries are constantly floating around us, but they only take root in minds well prepared to receive them.
  • Don’t settle for the results you’re getting today, even if they are great. Always look to create greater results tomorrow & be phenomenal!
  • On Social Media, Share your knowledge and Sell your expertise.
  • Chances favour the Connected Minds
  • A good leader strive to perform better every time but a great leader makes everyone around him better every time
  • To be the cream of the crop, you have to filter imperfections. Don’t send out an unfinished product, send your quality products.
  • Creativity in Business World is to meet a need which the present and future customers have yet to discover but you have already anticipated
  • Plan a road map to implement your ideas into reality or else it will just remain as a dream. #ideas #dreams #concepts
  • The #Grave of #Creativity is Complacency
  • I’ve learned…. that opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss.
  • It’s the posture of your heart which determines your attitude.
  • The wise are quiet because they’re convinced. The fools are loud because they’re trying to convince themselves
  • Life is hard, nothing comes easy..Remember: Live in the moment because every sec you’re angry, is a sec of #happiness you CANT get back
  • They laugh at me because I’m different; I laugh at them because they are all the same
  • The first step to think out of the box is to remind yourself there isn’t any box in any form or shape in the first place. #idea #creativity
  • Has it ever occurred to you that your business card isn’t complete without your personal twitter handle and Facebook account?
  • Innovation is invention which benefits mankind and has commercial value.
  • There’s a trend that those who do not do much offline networking actually prefer social media networking
  • Leaders : There is no “I” in a Team but there are 2 “I”s in a Vision. First you see then visualize, and finally you lead the team.
  • Integrated social media marketing: No offline or traditional ad will be complete without the mention of your company page and twitter.
  • The challenge for Brand using social media is to convert the fans into brand champions attracting more fans
  • 3 Ms for social media managers : Manage (ensure company buy in), monitor (see what’s going on) and Measure (have KPIs)
  • SM ground rules: give, respect, be open, be engaging and interesting, admit and apologize when committing a mistake
  • 3 Cs of Social Media : Content (add value), Context (good conversation) and Contact (build community)
  • An established brand always lead to good sales, but companies with good sales may not have established brands
  • An idea is actually a new relationship between or among 2 or more previous known objects
  • Art of Life : There is no such thing as a non-wine drinker, you just have not found the wine you love
  • “Never Make a Promise You Can’t Keep”, one of the similarities between Branding and Dating
  • Branding and Dating have many in common; one of them is “Never enter a relationship which you are not prepared to commit”
  • Genius makes time, the Smart ones use it wisely, the Fools do not know where it has gone to.
  • A few things you simply just cannot recover … Words that have been spoken, Opportunities that have been missed and Time that has passed.
  • Social business needs social brand ambassadors to advocate via social media to be effective in the face of increasing competition
  • If you fail to plan ahead, you’re planning ahead to fail
  • When the going gets tough, the tough gets tougher, the not-so-tough will be gone!
  • A true friend is someone who says nice things about you behind your back.( The vice versa is also true )
  • Obstacles are put in your way so that you can discover the magnitude of the strength you possess.
  • You are stronger than you think you are. Keep pushing forward, never give up on your dreams, and don’t let anyone stop you.
  • Music brings out the real you… every song you hear have to mean something to you or it won’t enjoy it
  • Your imperfections make you human… It’s how you handle them that defines who you are
  • A smile is a language that even a child can understand
  • Change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, and remove yourself from the unacceptable
  • We wouldn’t be who we are today, if we weren’t who we were yesterday!
  • Sometimes God doesn’t give you what you think you want not because you don’t deserve it but because you deserve.
  • Your life isn’t measured by the cards you are dealt, but by how well you play them.
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Live by Agreement (Points on Business Conduct)

I was adding an interesting new friend on my Facebook the other day. When he accepted my request, it came with a comprehensive reply on his “rules of engagement” on Facebook which was very professional and personable at the same time. The most interesting content was an article on “Points on Business Conduct”. If followed closely, one will become a person of great influence in the Business World.

Points on Business Conduct
(By Marshall Thurber)

1. Make only agreements that you are willing and able to keep.

2. Whenever possible, communicate any potential broken agreement before it is broken: Clear up broken agreements at the first appropriate time.

3. Speak only with good intent.

4. If a problem arises, communicate at the first appropriate time to theperson who can do something about it.

5. Tell the truth responsibly, and support others in telling the truth.

6. Get off what clearly is not working.

7. Be willing to share and support so that everyone succeeds (every act is a contribution to the whole, and every act should be a win-win situation).

8. Take responsibility for creating and supporting an abundant environment.

9. Constantly examine and monitor the working environment, making sure that the organization and the players are all in alignment.

10. Acknowledge others for what they have done.

Comments by Terry Allens, Entreprunuer:
“These ground rules, if they were followed, seemed to me to be able to eliminate some of the nastiest things that existed in most business environments.”

Your Agreement Shows Your Integrity
Except for disease and climatic disasters, I believe that over 90 percent of the world’s problems result from people not keeping their agreements.

Think about it. From countries to corporations to families and friends, most every upset little or large-can be traced back to someone not keeping up their end of the bargain. Wars break out, companies fail, marriages end, friendships fracture and deals fall through simply because of broken agreements.

We all make agreements every day. Some seem small and insignificant: an agreed upon time to meet, a promise to run an errand. Others are seen as bigger and more important: a formal contract, signing a loan agreement.

But all of them are important. Because this is the way trust is earned. A person’s reputation is built upon their ability to make and keep agreements.

Your life-and the lives of those around you-will work better when agreements are carefully made and diligently kept. The quality of your life is in direct relation to the quality of your agreements.

Here are seven tips to help you become and remain a person who can be counted upon:

1. Take All Agreements Seriously
When you agree to do something-do it. And do it when you said you would in the way you agreed to do it. When you agree to meet someone, be sure to be there and be on time. Agreements with yourself matter, too. If you promise yourself that you’ll exercise today, keep your promise. Develop the HABIT of keeping your agreements.

2. Be Careful What You Agree To
Don’t give your word lightly. Many people find it easier to say yes instead of no. But it’s far better to be a bit guarded with what we agree to do because we can find ourselves getting over-committed and then unable to complete what we said we would.

3. Keep Track of Your Agreements
In the course of a week we might enter into dozens of agreements. We must have some way to track these promises-a follow-up system to keep yourself-and those you deal with-on top of what was promised. Write them down. You may have great intentions, but if you forget to do what you agreed to do, the result is the same as you CHOOSING not to keep your agreement.

4. Make Sure Your Agreements Are Clear
With a written agreement you have a prayer. With a verbal agreement you’ve got nothing but air. It’s always best to have a written agreement-even if it’s just a letter or note of understanding. It’s much easier to iron out any confusion later if it was written down and no one has to rely on the memory of a conversation.

5. Be Careful With Whom You Make Agreements
There’s an old adage, “Cheat me once, shame on you; cheat me twice, shame on me.” If you make agreements with people who have a history of not keeping them, you’re leaving yourself wide open for disappointment.

6. Renegotiate When You’re Unable to Keep Your Agreement
When you find yourself unable or unwilling to complete an agreement, always go to the other
party or parties and renegotiate. It may be uncomfortable but it will keep you in integrity
and has far more class than simply not addressing the issue.

7. Manage By Agreement
Instead of just telling someone to do something, ask them if they would agree to doing thus and so by such and such time. If I tell someone to do something, they might do it because they were told to do so, but if I ask them and gain their agreement, I’ve got a lot better chance that it’ll get done. In using this method, you also find out if your request was clearly understood.

By paying careful attention to the agreements we make, tracking them and developing the habit of keeping all our agreements we become and remain a person of integrity.

Our lives and the world around us work in direct proportion to the quality of our agreements.

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Who Is An Influencer?

A influencer will produce other influencers and become a mentor to them

A influencer never makes decision based on assumptions but from answers by asking the right questions

A influencer will always be creative in managing different people in different situations

A influencer is more interested in people and relationship than projects and results.

A influencer has excellent communication skills by actively listening twice as much as he speaks.

A influencer is an excellent life negotiators who looks for shared interest rather than at different positions

A influencer is always aware of his own body language while observing others’ to establish rapport.

A influencer listens with empathy and speak with sincerity

A influencer has good memory about people but quick to forgive and forget

A influencer knows how to say the right things at the right time with good choice of words

A influencer can get into the minds of difficult people and win them over

A influencer is skilled in drawing attention and sensitive enough to give undivided attention

A influencer lights up his surrounding wherever he goes and will be missed whenever he leaves.

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